What healthy masculinity is

There's a lot of discussion online about what a masculine man is, and what he does. I don't like to talk about politics much on my blog, but this has been on my mind a lot recently.

At the end of the day, having old-fashioned gender roles in your relationship or your marriage is a matter of choice. Being feminine or masculine is a matter of choice. I've seen some people online that think that women who love being taken care of by their male partner are promoting misogyny but that isn't true. At the end of the day, as long as you and your partner are happy, that's all that matters, and I do love being feminine and being taken care of by my man and my man loves being masculine. So now that we got that out of the way, here are some things I think make up healthy masculinity:

1) Being a provider

In today's age, being a provider is not easy at all. So having a provider man is a huge blessing, he takes care of his woman by making sure she has everything she needs, as well as trying to meet all of her wants as well. He works hard to make her dreams come true. He views it as his obligation to make sure that the bills are paid, he watches the family budget, and he invests his money carefully. He may, in some families, also partake in some sort of homesteading or home enterprise to provide for his household. Ayden works hard every day and also tends to his greenhouse so that we can have fresh and delicious homegrown food everyday.

Being a good provider isn't just about finances, it's also about providing emotional security and reassurance. It's about providing not just a physical house, but a loving and safe home for your wife so she can live in her feminine energy.

2) Being a protector

One of the biggest responsibilities of a good man is to be a protector. Ayden would protect me from anything, and in a society becoming increasingly dangerous, it's so important to have a man by your side who will protect you from strangers who would try and harm you.

3) Being a leader

So many people think a man being a leader in a relationship means being domineering, selfish or even abusive. But this is not how I and Ayden see leadership. Leadership is about putting yourself last before others, making sure those under your charge are comfortable. It makes sacrificing your comfort so others can be more comfortable. In our relationship, Ayden doesn't lead by demanding I do things for him, but leads by making sure that I have nothing to worry about. It's been difficult dealing with immigration, but Ayden has constantly reassured me that he will make sure that we are alright.

4) Service

Far and away the biggest aspect of being a good man, or especially a good husband, is serving your wife. There's so many different ways society labels and praises men who serve their wives. Princess treatment, chivalry, ladies first, etc. Ayden is so endearing and sweet to me, when we went on holiday last month, he served me by carrying my luggage for me, opening doors and pulling out chairs for me, carrying the room's keycard, and fetching my pool ring for me so I could just relax and enjoy myself. A real man will always love and adore and serve his wife.